Rachel B. Alpert, LCSW, CST

  • Couples Counselor & Certified Sex Therapist
  • RBA Counseling, LLC
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Contact me for: Individual and couples counseling, sex therapy, learning how to enhance pleasure and connection in relationships, address gaps in desire, manage out of control sexual behavior and address sexuality related concerns

Rachel Alpert, LCSW, CST is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. Pursuing her passion of providing couples counseling and sex therapy services to individuals and couples, Rachel sees clients in her private practice, RBA Counseling, LLC in Denver. Rachel is open and affirming to clients of all forms of sexual expression with the goal of her work focused on helping adults address a wide array of concerns related to sexuality, intimacy, desire and sexual health. Rachel strives to support clients in reclaiming joy, playfulness, peace and connectedness as they create and maintain solutions to enhance their lives.

Rachel earned her Master’s Degree in Social Work with an emphasis on clinical work with adults and families from the University of Denver, and Bachelor of Arts in Sociology and Women’s and Gender Studies from Franklin and Marshall College. She completed post-graduate clinical training through the Denver Family Institute, the oldest, fully accredited marriage and family therapy training center in Colorado.

As an active member in American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), National Association of Social Work (NASW) and American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), Rachel has specialized training and education in sex therapy and individual and couples counseling. She is dedicated to helping others and giving back to the community by providing many guest lectures to local colleges including University of Denver and University of Boulder, as well as speaking engagements to women’s groups and professional health organizations.

Expert Articles by Rachel B. Alpert, LCSW, CST

Marriage and Couples

Fostering strong connections is essential to family well-being
Creating traditions of connection in your relationship is vital for building a lasting bond. Work with each other on introducing and nurturing behaviors that will put you back on the path towards each...

Expert Articles Sponsored by Rachel B. Alpert, LCSW, CST

Marriage and Couples

Get help if you are unsure of your marriage or relationship
Making a decision about changing a relationship is one of the hardest things that people do. When there are kids involved, that decision making process is even harder. Give yourself the time that you ...
Date night is a must for parents to ensure a healthy relationship
Finding the opportunity, and the courage, to spend time alone with your partner isn’t easy for many parents. Not only are there the very real demands of modern family life, fear and hesitation may b...
Parents can still have a romantic relationship while raising kids
Most long-term couples - especially parents - go through periods when their romantic life loses its vitality. While it can be pretty distressing, try to regard it as a normal stage in the life span of...
Admitting when you are wrong supports a healthy relationship
Remember, the one who apologizes or gives into their partner is not admitting they are wrong, but supporting their relationship over their point of view. And true love always overcomes self-righteousn...
Save your relationship with an experienced marriage counselor
You want to pick a marriage counselor who has a good amount of experience and who focuses on marital issues as his focus of work. It is also important to get a counselor who will help you experience c...
Expert advice for a strong and passionate marriage and relationship
Strengthening your marriage is a necessity, not a luxury. Marriages cannot afford to be in an inert or status quo state. We need to work on ourselves and the relationship to get the most out of it. As...
Expert advice on meditation and how it can improve your relationship
Meditation, being mindful, and appreciative will improve all aspects of your life and relationship. Just like going to the gym, the most important thing is to start and be consistent, and all the bene...
Get the love you want in your relationship with help from a therapist
You may ask yourself, what can I get out of couples therapy? The answer lies in what you are hoping to learn about yourself, your partner and/or your troubled relationship. People go to couples counse...
Maintaining sexual and emotional intimacy is vital for parents
Many couples will make changes in their lives for the sake of their children before they will do it for themselves. But having a thriving, robust sex life is possible when you have children. In fact, ...
Expert advice for keeping the romance alive after having a baby
Most new parents feel daunted by the difficulty of keeping their sex life alive. Faced with the multitude of challenges that come home with the baby, it can feel like an unsolvable riddle. But with so...
Do you tell your fiancee that you don't love the engagement ring?
The Maybe Factor: If it’s a family heirloom, all bets are off and a whole new set of rules apply.Prevention is always best. If you slip your partner hints from the beginning, most of this could have...
Emotionally connect to make it a good relationship and marriage
Emotional connection is an essential ingredient in a healthy relationship. It is built and destroyed by the way you handle little everyday things. As the saying goes “The devil is in the details.”...
Parents can rekindle their intimacy to create a strong marriage
Intentional acts of love, kindness and sensuality stimulate the part of our brain that thinks, “Yes, I am a sexy person and not just a parent.” These small connections may not be explicitly sexual...
Great first wedding anniversary gift ideas for your husband
Whether it’s a special watch, cufflinks or a ring, there are many unique jewelry pieces that you can purchase for your husband on your first wedding anniversary. Consider these tips to find the perf...
Fostering strong connections is essential to family well-being
Creating traditions of connection in your relationship is vital for building a lasting bond. Work with each other on introducing and nurturing behaviors that will put you back on the path towards each...
Create meaningful relations by nurturing fulfillment and intimacy
Sustaining long-term intimacy is real and attainable. By following these steps and making a commitment to practice, you can achieve new levels of happiness and fulfillment with your partner and in you...
Understand the 4C's and get the best value when buying a diamond
From understanding diamond grades to knowing your lady’s preferences, from asking if a diamond is color treated to watching out for simulants, it’s important to have background knowledge before yo...
How to create the perfect marriage and avoid divorce
The power to create a successful marriage lies in our very own hands. Divorce can truly be avoided if we each do our part to foster a climate of love, devotion and commitment. We must recognize the pa...
Plan the perfect Valentine's Day for your wife or girlfriend
Valentine’s Day is about celebrating your relationship, and expressing your love. It’s the thoughtful little things that show you truly care; so swap the pricey present for a new experience togeth...
Tips to ensure parenting does not interfere with your marriage
Being a parent is tough. But it doesn’t have to interfere with your marriage. Parenting and marriage should both be fun. And if one is causing problems for the other, that’s a sign that you are do...
How to put the sizzle in your sex life regardless of your age
Acknowledge, address and resolve your issues in and out of the bedroom. We all need more fun in our lives. So beginning today, talk to your partner and jointly make a decision to take whatever steps a...
Improve your marriage and relationship through better communication
Even if your relationship is on a rocky road at the moment, smoother sailing can be just ahead. Strengthening your communication skills and making time to connect every day will go a long way to impro...
An unplugged weekend getaway will do wonders for a relationship
A change in scenery and pace creates the opportunity to change your perspective. Getting out of your routine shakes things up and helps you rediscover and rejuvenate yourself and your relationship. Th...
How can married couples thrive when one partner has adult ADHD?
It is possible that you are one of the millions of couples whose relationship is on the rocks because of undiagnosed adult ADHD. If you think you detect symptoms of ADHD, such as chronic distraction a...

Dating

Relationship advice for successfully dating a recovering addict
Like any romantic relationship, dating a recovering addict can have its challenges. If you’re realistic about what you can handle and what kind of support you can offer, chances are the qualities yo...
How to have a great first date that will lead to a second
First dates are important because they can be the gateway to a great relationship or the end of it in one night. If you hate first dates because you’ve been unsuccessful at them, there are things yo...
Advice for men on how to impress and get the girl
Whether you’re trying to establish a connection with a woman online or offline, it’s important to remember to keep an open mind and try to understand as much as you can about her to find out wheth...
Know your personality type and find your perfect partner for life
If a relationship lacks substance it is often because the partners are not connecting on a level of complementing nature or personality types. Knowing and understanding these types will allow you to d...
Advice for men on how to keep your girlfriend from cheating on you
Women cheat just as much as men do, but for different reasons. When a woman cheats, it’s typically her man’s fault. Do your best to find a partner without a history of sexual or emotional abuse. O...
Expert advice on surviving a healthy long distance relationship
Long distance relationships don’t work? Some don’t, but good relationships aren’t about proximity, they’re about choices- things you do and things you don’t. These are a few common sense ide...
Expert advice for women to minimize the risk of male infidelity
Men are as faithful as their options, so the best way to keep a guy faithful is to date one with few sexual options. The problem is that most women don’t want to date that type of guy. Most women wo...
True love and romance can be found though international dating
Whether you’re looking near or far for a date, it’s vital to remember that strong relationships aren’t built overnight, and having fun is the key to having a successful future with someone....
What you should know and how to go about dating in the military
Ranks filled with young, buff and tough single guys might sound like a female recruit’s dream come true, but it can quickly become a nightmare if you don’t adhere to the standard operating dating ...
Things to consider before moving in together
There are many things to consider before deciding whether or not to move in together. The most important consideration to make is the expectation of what moving in together means for each of you. Try ...
Know what to do after your first date to build a healthy relationship
Dating is a time to have fun and enjoy getting to know potential partners to discover if they’re right for you, and if you are dating authentically you’ll feel open and excited about finding real ...
Heal from past relationships to help you move on and find love
The way in which we handle the past impacts our future. We can either learn from our experiences in order to improve our lives or we can take on the role of the victim. Keep in mind, however, that we ...
Protect yourself from online dating scams to ensure your safety
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Choose the right matchmaking service to help you find love
There are many ways to meet and find potential partners. Anyone who is motivated to seek that special someone has many tools available to them today - it is more than simply being in the right place a...
How to ask a girl out on a first date
Asking a girl out is a simple task; it’s knowing which route to take that matters most. Since men value youth and physical attractiveness in a woman, a conversation isn’t necessary to gauge which ...
Most guys use online dating sites to find a serious relationship
In the end, it’s just not true that all men are dogs—guys are just looking to be held at a higher standard these days. If you take the time to get to know the person you are dating, it will defini...
Search for the love of your life with the help of a dating coach
Find a Dating Coach with content and a style that resonates with you, but be prepared to work! We’re the personal trainers of your love life, here to support, motivate, and educate you on your path ...
Sugar daddies: what you need to know about dating a much older man
So your guy made VP at his company the same year you became old enough to buy alcohol. Together, you’re hotter than his secretary’s Monday morning coffee. Relationships that are on fire in the beg...
Be smart and professional at the office if you date someone from work
Dating a coworker in the workplace can be hazardous to your work’s health. However, if you keep yourself focused on being professional, keeping the relationship to yourself, and working while at wor...
Be cool, and make it a hot first date with this expert advice
First dates can be difficult waters to navigate, but doing a little pre-date prep, plus practicing a little on-date kindness can get you through those awkward stages, and hopefully into a healthy rela...
Have an engaging conversation when going on a first date with a man
Feeling comfortable with your date creates a willingness to share, and offers a sense of grace in partnership from the moment you meet. This is an important quality to a man who’s interested in a co...
Know how your date is going by how she is flirting
These are all telltale signs that women generally give off when they're into you…and especially when they're not into you. However, don't let these be your judge and jury, rather let the advice abov...
How to grieve, forgive, and move on after a failed relationship
It’s possible to have a successful and healthy end to a long-term relationship. Emotionally letting go through the grieving process, and with help and support from a relationship expert is a very im...
How to ask a man out on a first date
Asking a guy out may make your grandma cringe, but women taking the lead in dating is here to stay. By keeping things casual on your end, your man of choice may not even notice you're taking the lead....
How to end the first date gracefully when you're not interested
None of us are skilled at breaking it off because we don’t want to hurt their feelings or be displeasing. This is natural. If they ask you out again, say, “Thank you so much for asking. I can tell...
Guidance for people who are dating someone with kids
Although dating someone with children can be challenging because it adds another layer of complexity to the relationship, don’t let your fears stop you if you know believe the relationship has promi...
Recreational dating: have fun finding what you want in a relationship
Dating just for fun is a great strategy. Just be clear about what you want and communicate it to your dating partner. Use that time to learn about yourself and what you want in a relationship, and be ...
Make casual sex and one night stands fun, adventurous and pleasurable
Most people think of casual sex and one nights stands as an empty unfulfilling past time, but it doesn’t have to be! So follow this advice and keep your favorite hobby as wild, crazy, and fun as it ...
Advice for men on selecting their online dating profile photo
Photos are the gateway to everything good about online dating. Spend a little time making sure your pictures reflect you accurately and authentically. And take the feedback. If every woman you meet te...
Women: Use sexy and appealing photos for your online dating profile
A photographer friend once told me, “When you’re taking your sexy shot, think, ‘I know a secret.’ It will give you a sweet, sexy, playful expression.”If you’re not getting responses to you...
Best practices on surviving and being successful in online dating
While online dating offers a safe and efficient way to meet new people, it is also a useful exercise that will help you learn more about who you are and what you want. Focusing on the learning piece w...
Someone who can date with confidence is very attractive
Navigating through the world of dating can be a tricky proposition, yet having confidence in you is a must in order to experience success. Visualize your date going well, act as if it will, be yoursel...
Being happy when you are single builds self-confidence when dating
Being a successful single is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. It is having the mindset that you deserve to be happy whether you are single or in a relationship. It’s also an importan...
How to make long distance dating and relationships work
More and more people are entering into distance relationships and making them work. Communication is key. Be honest, be creative, be flexible, and have fun!...
Everything a man needs to know to plan the perfect first date
The way a woman’s mind works is a completely alien concept for a man, which is why, especially on that first date, you need to stick to the safe and traditional approach. She needs to see if you are...

Divorced and Dating

Dating after divorce: How to find love again
No matter how this date goes, it is important to put your best foot forward and let your personality shine. Stick to this advice and we know you will have a stellar reintroduction into the dating pool...
Heal from divorce, create for yourself a new life and find love
The key to successfully finding the right person for you is to date consciously. That means being aware of the choices you are making, finding out how relationships are supposed to work, and being cle...
Considerations when dating a man who has a different parenting style
Dating with children after divorce can be challenging for a myriad of reasons. And if you and your date have vastly different parenting styles it can be impossible. So in your quest for new love maint...
Advice on returning to the dating game for the second or third time
It is vital to keep dating solely about the experience, rather than the end goal of finding a partner. If you can do this, you will be more likely end up with both: A great experience and a wonderful ...
Stay confident when you start dating again after a divorce
It’s natural to feel unsteady when thinking about dating after divorce. It’s important to do the inner work to know why you are dating, set expectations and boundaries, know and love yourself, and...
How to avoid relationship mistakes when dating after a divorce
Reentering the dating scene is a wonderful opportunity to set yourself free from the childhood emotional demons that haunt our adult relationships. The key to freedom is consciousness: Know your old s...
Advice for men on rejoining the dating scene after the divorce
Dating after divorce can be a daunting idea but it doesn’t have to be awful. Taking time to get clear on the kind of relationship you want before you start can pave the way for this exciting new par...
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